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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated? Part 2

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated? Part 2

In Part 1 I introduced a topic that many within the Christian community have discussed and debated about for centuries. Who makes the final call in a marriage where both spouses are caught in a stalemate over a non-moral issue? At the end of Part 1 I encouraged you to read and meditate on Ephesians 5:23 and 1 Timothy 3:4,5,12. Did you catch what the apostle Paul was--and was not--saying there?

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated? Part 2
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Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated? Part 1

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated? Part 1

When a husband and wife need to make a decision, should they wait for God to change the other person on the matter? What if they must make a decision by a certain time and cannot wait any longer? While there are many times when lesser decisions can be put on hold until one or both change their opinion, what about those moments when waiting is not feasible, like public versus private schooling for the kids in the fall? A decision must be made, but how?

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated? Part 1
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How Should A Sister Treat Her Brother? [Video]

How Should A Sister Treat Her Brother? [Video]

Does our culture really understand boys? Generally speaking, the mindset is all about teaching boys how to treat girls. A mother writes, "Two of my children are attending an essay class. Last week they were told to write an essay entitled, ‘How Should a Gentleman Treat a Lady?’ or ‘How Should a Lady Treat a Gentleman?’ Everyone chose the first option. My daughter, without being prompted, offered an explanation, ‘There is more material available to answer the first question!’” Because girls exercise greater sensitivity and empathy, the thinking is to stay on boys to teach them to be sensitive and empathetic.

How Should A Sister Treat Her Brother? [Video]
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This One Exercise Could Radically Change Your Marriage, Part 2

This One Exercise Could Radically Change Your Marriage, Part 2

Yesterday, I shared this powerful testimony from a wife. If you missed it, make sure you go back and read it before reading my response. Hi Elizabeth, Your testimony is powerful. Brilliant. Moving. Discerning. Persuasive. Over the years, I have coached countless wives to make a positive list of qualities about their husbands. I gave this assignment to counter the overwhelming negativity toward their husbands. This exercise has radically changed their view of their husbands. As men, this is difficult for us to grasp.

This One Exercise Could Radically Change Your Marriage, Part 2
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This One Exercise Could Radically Change Your Marriage, Part 1

This One Exercise Could Radically Change Your Marriage, Part 1

I recently received this powerful testimony from a wife. By sharing it, I hope you will be encouraged in your marriage. Dr. E, God has been burdening my heart the last few weeks about a topic that I want (and don’t want) to discuss. I am not even sure how to approach the subject, so here is my best attempt. Once you become a Christian you enter the spiritual battle between good and evil (Romans 7:15-25, 1 Timothy 6:12). Sometimes you can get so weary in the battle. Sometimes you feel like you are the only one fighting. Everyone else seems so happy, but you have so much turmoil inside. Others might look at you and think you are happy, but you know that you are not. You know you are struggling. You know you want to give up. You know you just can’t do this fighting anymore.

This One Exercise Could Radically Change Your Marriage, Part 1
Marriage
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Why Do Some People Hang Onto Bitterness? [Video]

Why Do Some People Hang Onto Bitterness? [Video]

Why do some people hang onto bitterness? They think that to forgive means letting the other person off the hook. To forgive means they must remove all consequences from the other person. That, of course, is mistaken thinking. For example, one can have a forgiving spirit while bringing the full weight of the law to bear against the other person.

Why Do Some People Hang Onto Bitterness? [Video]
Christian Life
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Who Wrote the Famous Song R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? Aretha Franklin? [Video]

Who Wrote the Famous Song R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? Aretha Franklin? [Video]

As for Aretha Franklin's song R.E.S.P.E.C.T., the truth is Otis Redding wrote that song and he released it in 1965, two years before Aretha adapted it to her female perspective of a confident feminist. Otis's version is of a desperate husband pleading with his wife for respect. He will give her anything she wants and doesn't care if she treats him wrong. Aretha changed it to "I ain't gonna do you wrong." Otis playfully said it is a song "that little girl done stole from me.”

Who Wrote the Famous Song R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? Aretha Franklin? [Video]
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Parents: The Punishment Must Fit The Crime, Part 2 [Video]

Parents: The Punishment Must Fit The Crime, Part 2 [Video]

In our last blog post, we discussed the how to respond to a child who is socially thoughtless and rude. We also looked at the importance of discerning a child’s intent before enacting discipline. But behind social rules, what about moral laws? What about reckless and even rebellious behavior that seriously hurts people? How is a parent to respond to these?With regard to moral laws, there are unintentional responses and intentional reactions. In both instances the children do something that is innately wrong. They can be reckless and rebellious.

Parents: The Punishment Must Fit The Crime, Part 2 [Video]
Parenting
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