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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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A Wife Won Her Husband: His Testimony

A Wife Won Her Husband: His Testimony

I wish to sing the praises of the wife described below by her husband, who e-mailed me to share how she won him back to herself and to God’s truth on the heels of his sin. Dear Dr. Eggerichs, Thank you for writing Love and Respect—the book has been a blessing and reading it has been a life-changing event for me. I'm 36, my wife is 35. We have two children. I am an engineer by degree and work in management. We've always been fortunate enough for our finances to allow my wife to stay home with the kids.

A Wife Won Her Husband: His Testimony
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Do You Both Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?

Do You Both Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?

A wife shared with me, “On our way home from vacation yesterday, my husband asked me what I was thinking about and I told him that I was thinking about how I had failed in the area of making him feel respected, to which he replied, ‘Oh no, then that means I have not made you feel loved like I should.’" I can tell you with near certainty, good things happen to a couple when both contend they are the one responsible for the lack of love and respect in the marriage. In the case of this couple, they had learned about the Energizing Cycle based on Ephesians 5:33—a husband’s love motivates a wife’s respect and a wife’s respect motivates a husband’s love.

Do You Both Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?
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Do the Prayers of a Person Make a Difference in Their War Room?

Do the Prayers of a Person Make a Difference in Their War Room?

In the movie War Room, a godly, wise, and aged woman enters her private room to intercede for others through prayer. In her “war room,” a metaphor for the prayer closet to which Jesus refers in Matthew 6:6, she seeks the Living and Loving Christ on behalf of others. Such a woman prayed for me, and I never knew it until I was older and she had already died. In fact, I never met her because she died five years before I was even born. She was my grandmother on my dad’s side. Pearl Eggerichs.The story has it from my dad that she prayed for her future grandchildren, before they were born.

Do the Prayers of a Person Make a Difference in Their War Room?
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My Wife Is Leaving Me

My Wife Is Leaving Me

Why does it take the crisis of a wife leaving before a husband awakens to the bad behaviors that caused her to exit? Listen to Greg’s awakening and confession. My wife and I have been separated for 4 months now. I changed into a horrible man after we became married and did not handle many things right. I said many horrible and hurtful things to her and broke her heart. . . . The day she left, I found God. . . . He touched my heart and took my anger, frustration away. I have been working on me ever since to become a better man, better than I was even when we fell in love. She filed for divorce a month ago. I cannot sign the papers. . . . I really need my family back, my marriage and my wife's love again. He humbly confesses the horrible and hurtful things he did to break her heart.

My Wife Is Leaving Me
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Love Is Not All You Need In Marriage [Video]

Love Is Not All You Need In Marriage [Video]

Dr. E, "The Bible says love is the greatest. Love is all that matters, not all this respect stuff. Love is enough for my husband. That's how I feel." When the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:13 that love is the greatest, the Apostle Paul restricts the comparison to faith and hope. Of faith, hope, and love, love is the greatest. Paul does not have honor, respect, and glory in mind in this context. Why is this important to know?

Love Is Not All You Need In Marriage [Video]
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In Your Marriage, What Does It Mean To Ask God For A Song?

In Your Marriage, What Does It Mean To Ask God For A Song?

Years ago several families in the church I pastored traveled with my family to Mississippi where we ministered to a poverty-stricken location. While there I had the privilege of visiting with an aged African-American woman who loved Christ. Over her lifetime, she had worked in the cotton fields much of her lifetime. As we sat on her front porch, I asked her to share her upbringing, “How did you survive all those years laboring in the scorching-hot cotton fields?" She told me, “Each morning I’d awakin’ before dawn. The day before me would be another day of drudgery in the cotton fields. To make it through the heat and humidity I’d ask the Lord to give me a song for the day. If I had a song, I could hum and sing it while picking cotton. Faithfully He’d give me a song. Each day I’d sing to Him and find comfort in His presence."What a story. What an example.

In Your Marriage, What Does It Mean To Ask God For A Song?
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Is It Time to Split Up?—Part 2

Is It Time to Split Up?—Part 2

(If you haven't read Part 1 of this post, make sure you do so before continuing!) We have established that the “man” Jesus refers to in Matthew 9:5–6 who is putting the marriage asunder is the husband and/or wife in the marriage, not the third party too many people are quick to blame. However, Jesus has also in this verse given us three motivations to avoid putting the marriage asunder: 1) God 2) Hath 3) Joined Together.

Is It Time to Split Up?—Part 2
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Is It Time to Split Up?—Part 1

Is It Time to Split Up?—Part 1

Jesus says, "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and the twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder" (Matthew 19:5–6 KJV).WHO IS THE “MAN”? I have read that verse countless times over the years but not until after many readings did I see something I never saw!

Is It Time to Split Up?—Part 1
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