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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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What Did You Do to Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

What Did You Do to Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Have you come through a marital crisis? I’d love to hear your story. You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. But before you e-mail me at story@loveandrespect.com, perhaps you could answer some questions that would spark your memory.The Six A’s. Let me say upfront that there could have been any number of reasons for the crisis.

What Did You Do to Come Through Your Marital Crisis?
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6 Prayers For Mothers to Pray Based on the Word of God

6 Prayers For Mothers to Pray Based on the Word of God

James says we have not because we ask not, so praying is fundamental (James 4:2). There is power in asking! There is less of God’s power when we do not ask. We receive less when we are remiss in asking. But because we ask does not mean we always receive. Jesus prayed three times for the cup of suffering to pass (Matthew 26:44). The apostle Paul thrice prayed for the thorn in the flesh to be removed (2 Corinthians 12:8). God did not answer their specific prayers.

6 Prayers For Mothers to Pray Based on the Word of God
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As a Mom, What Do I Do When I Feel Tired and Hurt?

As a Mom, What Do I Do When I Feel Tired and Hurt?

You give, give, and give. But the Bible provides a warning: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9). A mother who does good toward her son day after day can grow weary and lose heart when she does not observe any fruitful reaping. When her boy does not listen and willfully disobeys, he can wear her out on any given day. When exhausted, she can let down her guard. She can let go of controlling her emotions. On top of this, if she is feeling horrible about herself, who cares? She lets it rip against her boy.

As a Mom, What Do I Do When I Feel Tired and Hurt?
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19 Principles of Love and Respect In Marriage: Which Ones Do You Do Well?

19 Principles of Love and Respect In Marriage: Which Ones Do You Do Well?

Because God commands a husband to put on love toward his wife and a wife to come across respectfully to her husband (Ephesians 5:33), I have found it fascinating to think of the many ways of applying this instruction to the married. I believe many of you are making application of the positive aspects of the below 19 principles. As you read this list, which ones do you do well? Why?

19 Principles of Love and Respect In Marriage: Which Ones Do You Do Well?
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Why Do Some Husbands Say Hurtful Things to Their Wives? (Read the blog!)

Why Do Some Husbands Say Hurtful Things to Their Wives? (Read the blog!)

Have you ever had a conversation with your husband that went like one of these? Feeling hurt you say, “You don’t love me. You just want to criticize and punish me." He replies, "That's right! I just want to criticize and punish you!"After hearing him say this you share with your BFF, “He told me that he just wants to criticize and punish me."Or maybe during a heated conflict you tell him, “We have problems but you won’t make any attempt to change!" He replies, “That’s right, I won’t make any attempt to change!"After hearing this, you inform your sisters, “ Though I know I need to work on myself, and I am not perfect, he said he won’t make any attempt to change. I am at a loss to know what to do."

Why Do Some Husbands Say Hurtful Things to Their Wives? (Read the blog!)
Marriage
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Why Do Husbands Read into a Wife’s Words Disrespectful Meanings She Does Not Intend?

Why Do Husbands Read into a Wife’s Words Disrespectful Meanings She Does Not Intend?

Many wives have no idea why their husbands react negatively to their honest comments shared out of true concern. What to her is a caring attempt to offer a suggestion about something he needs to change, which would in fact be helpful to him if he listened to her, ends up hurting him. What else can she do but judge him as childish for misunderstanding her? Keg’s Carrot Cake: 2,300 Calories! However, let’s put the shoe on the other foot. Is she childish and over-personalizing for not appreciating when he blurted out, "You aren't having that dessert, are you? The Keg’s carrot cake a la mode has over 2,300 calories!"

Why Do Husbands Read into a Wife’s Words Disrespectful Meanings She Does Not Intend?
Marriage
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Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to Disrespect? Part 2: The Disrespectful Wife (to the Highly Sensitive Husband)

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to Disrespect? Part 2: The Disrespectful Wife (to the Highly Sensitive Husband)

In part 1 we discussed the hyper-sensitive husband who falsely claims contempt from his goodwilled wife who is truly attempting to respect him. But sometimes what a wife claims is hyper-sensitivity is actually her highly sensitive husband trying to best love his disrespectful wife.

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to Disrespect? Part 2: The Disrespectful Wife (to the Highly Sensitive Husband)
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Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to Disrespect? Part 1: The Hyper-Sensitive Husband

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to Disrespect? Part 1: The Hyper-Sensitive Husband

Is the following example a disrespectful wife toward a good-willed husband or a hyper-sensitive husband falsely claiming excessive disrespect from his wife? A wife wrote, "It's mainly the tone of voiceI use he says [that is disrespectful]. Or [for example], when we have agreed that the garage needs to be cleaned out but he doesn't make the effort to start the project, so I go in and start it, [and he tells me] that is disrespectful. [Or], he asked me not to trim the bush because he will be filling up the trash can with grass, but I let him know that there won't be much from the bush. He doesn't say anything so I go ahead and trim, then he tells me it is disrespectful to go against him like that.

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to Disrespect? Part 1: The Hyper-Sensitive Husband
Marriage
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