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Why She Shares, and What He Hears
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Why She Shares, and What He Hears

When a wife dares to share her hurt and negative feelings with her husband, she does so hoping he will humbly apologize and make efforts to do things more lovingly next time. Her goal in addressing her concerns is to get rid of her hurt, be energized, feel positive, and respond to him in caring ways.

Why She Shares, and What He Hears
Marriage
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3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You
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3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

A wife who has been married for twenty years to a loving, goodwilled husband and father (her words!) found herself suddenly struggling to understand how their relationship had gone south.

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You
Marriage
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A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch
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A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch

In my book Speak Your Mind, I offer a four-point checklist that everything we communicate should be. Whether we’re talking to our spouse, our children, our boss, or the bank teller, we should ask ourselves, “Is that which I’m about to communicate: 1) true? 2) kind? 3) necessary, and 4) clear?

A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch
Christian Life
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When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song
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When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

In a national study done years ago, four hundred men were asked to choose between one of two negative experiences: If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure?

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song
Marriage
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2

In part 1, we shared 1 Peter 3:1–2 and Peter’s command to a wife to remain respectful to her disobedient husband. The first major reason to do this is because by doing so they will find favor in the eyes of God.

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2
Marriage
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3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You
Marriage
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9
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A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch

A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch

A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch
Christian Life
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5
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When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song
Marriage
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6
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2
Marriage
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What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?

What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?

Based on God’s summary statement on marriage in Ephesians 5:33, we conclude that above all else, women desire to feel loved unconditionally and that men, above all, desire to be respected for who they are as a man. However, when it comes to marriage, does the emphasis on unconditional love mean wives do not want sex?

What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?
Marriage
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Are Men In Your Church Hearing Their Native Tongue Spoken?

Are Men In Your Church Hearing Their Native Tongue Spoken?

Imagine with me a guy who is a lifelong fitness nut. He only eats the best of foods, he can run a 5K at the drop of a hat in less than twenty minutes, and he goes to the gym five days a week. Let’s suppose he is also instrumental in helping his girlfriend and future wife lose weight and get into shape, after a lifetime of struggles for her.

Are Men In Your Church Hearing Their Native Tongue Spoken?
Marriage
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“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

In Ephesians 5:33, husbands are commanded to love their wives, and wives are commanded to respect their husbands. One obvious question that I often receive concerning this is, “Why aren’t wives commanded to love their husbands?” The answer I always share is that God is not in the business of commanding us to do things that we naturally do on our own. Put simply, women love to love.

“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”
Marriage
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Should You Really Apologize to Your Kids? [Video]

Should You Really Apologize to Your Kids? [Video]

I have heard from not a few parents over the years who have admitted the difficulty they have in apologizing to their children. On the one hand, I totally get it. I have three children myself.

Should You Really Apologize to Your Kids? [Video]
Parenting
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Love and Respect Can’t Be Treated Like New Year’s Resolutions

Love and Respect Can’t Be Treated Like New Year’s Resolutions

It’s that time of year again—when millions all over the world make New Year’s resolutions. Many will want to lose weight and become healthier in general; many will take up a new hobby or skill; and others will seek to become more organized in different aspects of their lives. But no matter what a person’s goodwilled intention for the New Year is, studies show time after time that roughly 80 percent of people fail in their New Year’s resolutions.

Love and Respect Can’t Be Treated Like New Year’s Resolutions
Marriage
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Are You Married to a Judas or a Peter?

Are You Married to a Judas or a Peter?

Having spoken for more than two decades about Love and Respect and counseling couples for even longer than that, I have heard more than a few complaints from husbands and wives about their spouses, especially in emails: “This man will never love me the way you talk about! You would not believe what I have been putting up with all these years!”

Are You Married to a Judas or a Peter?
Marriage
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Your Spouse Can Disagree with You without It Becoming a Love and Respect Issue

Your Spouse Can Disagree with You without It Becoming a Love and Respect Issue

Have you and your spouse given each other the freedom to disagree without everything escalating to a love and respect issue? A wife wants the freedom to disagree with her husband without him feeling she is being disrespectful to him. Many times a wife wishes to give her opinion on what he is proposing, but he interprets her mere questioning as discourteous. She desires the freedom to give her input on his ideas, but will he give her that right? Or will he say something like, "There you go again, disrespecting my ideas"?

Your Spouse Can Disagree with You without It Becoming a Love and Respect Issue
Marriage
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When a Man Does Not Clearly Communicate His Heart, He Can Lose Everything

When a Man Does Not Clearly Communicate His Heart, He Can Lose Everything

Brokenhearted, a man told me he used to say to his family, "If you don't like living here, don't let the door hit you in the fanny on the way out.” Feeling unappreciated as the provider, he would exclaim this flippantly. He assumed everyone would decode his point, which was not to actually send them the message that he wanted them to leave but that he was feeling disrespected in that moment.

When a Man Does Not Clearly Communicate His Heart, He Can Lose Everything
Marriage
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