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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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You Want Your Husband to Hear Your Heart—The Answer May Be to First H.E.A.R. Him

You Want Your Husband to Hear Your Heart—The Answer May Be to First H.E.A.R. Him

A wife longs for her husband to hear her heart. She becomes insecure when he does not. What can she do? Given your husband has goodwill and wants to do God's will, I suggest looking in four areas and trying to “H.E.A.R.” your husband. H:Honor his desire to honor God. If there is any positive thing you see in his walk with God, say, "I want to honor your desire to honor God. I have noticed how you _____." Fill in the blank. While most likely there are things you wish he did in his walk with God that he isn't currently doing, don't go there. This exercise is about addressing the positive—how you see your husband honoring God—because it is true, honorable, and right.

You Want Your Husband to Hear Your Heart—The Answer May Be to First H.E.A.R. Him
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Sometimes the Solution in a Troubled Marriage Is to Do Less!

Sometimes the Solution in a Troubled Marriage Is to Do Less!

Can a wife be guilty of helping her husband too much? At first glance, that may sound preposterous, right? I mean, of all the burdensome things a wife deals with during the day in managing her home and feeding her marriage, do we really have to add “don’t help husband too much” to her list? The events of Genesis 2 speak to this, actually. Take another look at these verses that you are probably more than familiar with already:

Sometimes the Solution in a Troubled Marriage Is to Do Less!
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How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part II)

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part II)

In a previous article, I wrote about some of the disheartening times when Paul’s Holy Spirit-inspired words on sexual intimacy in 1 Corinthians 7 were spun so as to justify one-sided coercion rather than mutual consent. Unfortunately, throughout history many husbands have taken a one-sided position to 1 Corinthians 7:4 and demanded fulfillment of their male conjugal rights. This is clearly contrary to Abba Father's revelation to husbands and wives and ignores the second half of 1 Corinthians 7:4.

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part II)
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How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part 1)

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part 1)

In the near future, I will be going deeper on the topic of sex in marriage for all of our Love and Respect friends. The title? Love and Respect (and Sex): Coming Together as Husband and Wife. Interested in learning more? Would you like to add your stories to the content? Read on, and I’ll show you how.

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part 1)
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Not the Marriage Conference I Was Expecting

Not the Marriage Conference I Was Expecting

Thank you Connie Cavanaugh for sharing your experience at a Love and Respect conference. In the weeks leading up to the Love and Respect marriage conference at church last week, the women were excited, but the men were tentative.

Not the Marriage Conference I Was Expecting
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The Two-Edged Sword of Love and Respect: Virtue And Vice

The Two-Edged Sword of Love and Respect: Virtue And Vice

Have you ever told someone the oft-used phrase that “two wrongs don’t make a right”? If you have kids you no doubt have. When big brother pushes little sister and she charges at him in response, knocking him over backward, both get in trouble with mom and dad because “two wrongs don’t make a right.” And it’s true: Never in the history of sibling rivalries, sports, war, politics, or any other area have conflicts been appropriately resolved after the initial victim retaliated with his or her own dose of medicine.

The Two-Edged Sword of Love and Respect: Virtue And Vice
Marriage
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What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

In my conferences on Love and Respect, I like to use the analogy that men and women are as different as pink is from blue. Women look at the world through pink sunglasses, hear through pink hearing aids, and speak through a pink megaphone; while men do it all with blue. Which basically means a man and a woman can hear the exact same sentence and interpret it in completely different ways, or even say the exact same thing but mean completely different things with their words.

What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?
Marriage
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Does Unconditional Respect Equal Becoming a Doormat?

Does Unconditional Respect Equal Becoming a Doormat?

One of the questions I hear the most is some variation of, “Are you telling me I have to unconditionally respect my husband’s bad behavior and become a door mat?Everyone knows respect must be earned!” Interestingly, in our culture we don’t have a problem understanding unconditional love… in fact, we see unconditional love as the right of every human being. Imagine expecting our children to “earn” our love!We would disapprove of such parenting. Most of us have no problem separating the person from their behavior when it comes to love.Love the person, hate the sin.Right?

Does Unconditional Respect Equal Becoming a Doormat?
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