Motivating Your Man God's Way: Discover One Word that Energizes Him to Love
Motivating Your Man God’s Way! Sound intriguing? Every wife we have met desires to motivate her man to be more loving. So what motivates a husband to love, and feel more love for his wife? Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs discovered the secret and share it with wives in this simple guide.

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What You Will Learn
- Discover the secrets to motivating your man God's way
- Understand what truly motivates husbands to love deeply and feel a greater love for their wives
- Gain insights from Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs' counseling experience
- Learn practical principles to implement in your marriage for remarkable positive changes
- Prepare to embark on an incredible journey of inspiring love and witnessing transformative results in your relationship
Motivating Your Man God's Way
Discovering One Word That Energizes Your Husband To Love
Unveiling the Secrets to Motivating Your Man God's Way!
Intrigued? It's a desire shared by countless wives—to inspire their husbands to be more loving. But what truly motivates a husband to love deeply and feel a greater love for his wife? Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs have unraveled this secret and present it in this straightforward guide. Dr. Eggerichs reflects on their counseling experience, stating, "We have noticed a common trend: husbands often lack motivation in this area. They tend to be less proactive in seeking marriage counseling or attending seminars."

Transform Your Marriage: Inspire Love and Witness Remarkable Change!
Recognizing this fundamental challenge, the Eggerichs' have discovered a simple answer. By implementing the discussed principles into your marriage, you can experience remarkable positive changes, potentially surpassing even your wildest dreams. Prepare to embark on an incredible journey of inspiring love and witnessing transformative results in your relationship. With this guide, you'll have the tools to motivate your man in a way that aligns with God's plan. Get ready to see your marriage thrive as you put these principles into practice, creating a deeper and more fulfilling connection with your husband.
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Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
At the very bottom of things, in every case and in every conversation, you can do your marriage a huge favor by assuming she is seeking to feel loved or he is seeking to feel respected and give your spouse some grace!
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
When you possess a forgiving spirit, words of Love and Respect will flow authentically from your lips- and realize that the Lord Himself is listening to you at moments like these. He knows you are not powerless, but actually full of power that He has granted you.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
Share what God is saying to your heart, not what you think He needs to say to your mate.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
We have different vulnerabilities. We can pass judgment on one another all day long or we can say God made us different and that’s ok.
Your marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for Jesus Christ. God is using your spouse to bring you an eternal reward.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
As you pray together, you will truly learn to love and respect together.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
If a husband loves his wife as he should, she will feel honored and respected. If a wife respects her husband as she should, he will feel loved and appreciated. It’s a win-win.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
So I encourage every husband and wife to commit to the Jesus Way of Talking. Instead of allowing the stress of the situation to control you, you can say to yourself, “Because I love the Lord and I know that He rewards every good word, I am going to be truthful even if my spouse is not. I will also be uplifting, forgiving, thankful and scriptural in my speech because my ultimate goal is to please the Lord. Whatever my spouse’s weaknesses or bad habits might be, I will not let them cause me to sin with my lips.”
No one can really practice Love and Respect unless he or she does it as unto Jesus Christ.
