Motivating Your Man God's Way: Discover One Word that Energizes Him to Love

Motivating Your Man God’s Way! Sound intriguing? Every wife we have met desires to motivate her man to be more loving. So what motivates a husband to love, and feel more love for his wife? Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs discovered the secret and share it with wives in this simple guide.

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Motivating Your Man God's Way

Discovering One Word That Energizes Your Husband To Love

Unveiling the Secrets to Motivating Your Man God's Way!

Intrigued? It's a desire shared by countless wives—to inspire their husbands to be more loving. But what truly motivates a husband to love deeply and feel a greater love for his wife? Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs have unraveled this secret and present it in this straightforward guide. Dr. Eggerichs reflects on their counseling experience, stating, "We have noticed a common trend: husbands often lack motivation in this area. They tend to be less proactive in seeking marriage counseling or attending seminars."

Transform Your Marriage: Inspire Love and Witness Remarkable Change!

Recognizing this fundamental challenge, the Eggerichs' have discovered a simple answer. By implementing the discussed principles into your marriage, you can experience remarkable positive changes, potentially surpassing even your wildest dreams. Prepare to embark on an incredible journey of inspiring love and witnessing transformative results in your relationship. With this guide, you'll have the tools to motivate your man in a way that aligns with God's plan. Get ready to see your marriage thrive as you put these principles into practice, creating a deeper and more fulfilling connection with your husband.

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Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.

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Portrait of Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs

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Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.

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God is good and wants what is best for us.

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The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.

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Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.

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To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.

The Love and Respect Experience

A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.

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When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.

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When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.

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Always try to look at your spouse the way Jesus does.

The Language of Love & Respect Book

When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.

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We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.

Before You Hit Send

Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.

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Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"

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[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.

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You have two ears and one mouth; use them proportionately.

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Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.

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If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.

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Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.

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No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.

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As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.

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Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.

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No matter what your struggle- criticism, constant conflict, sex, money, parenting, harsh words- learning to communicate the Love and Respect way can help you make crucial changes and build the kind of relationship that God blesses.

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It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.

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Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.

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You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.

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Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.

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Do not live by the standards of Hollywood; trust what God says in His Holy Word.

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I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?

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Good intentions do not always produce good words or outcomes.

Before You Hit Send

Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.

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Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.

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Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).

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Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)

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It is hard to be negative while being thankful.

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Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.

Before You Hit Send

Trust God when the “why’s” of life threaten to overwhelm you.

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When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.

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When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you.

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We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.

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God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.

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He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.

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The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.

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His love blesses regardless of her respect; her respect blesses regardless of his love.

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Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.

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If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.

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Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.

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She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.

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The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.

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Don’t label each other as bad because you differ on how you solve your troubles.

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When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.

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God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?

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Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.

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If a husband is commanded to agape- love his wife, then she truly needs love.

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Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.

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Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.

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A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.

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One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.

The Illumination Project (Journal)

Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)

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Fight like a loving man and a respectful woman. Fight fair.

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The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.

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A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.

Before You Hit Send

Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.

Before You Hit Send

We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.

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She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.

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When confronting your spouse, attack the behavior, not the person.

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To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.

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A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.

The Love and Respect Experience

Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)

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Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.

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Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)

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Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?

The Illumination Project (Journal)

He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.

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The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.

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Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires

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If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.

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Could you be facing a crisis in faith more than a crisis in your marriage?

Respectfully Yours

It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.

Building Blocks

When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.

The Love and Respect Experience

We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.

Respectfully Yours

Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.

The Love and Respect Experience

When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.

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Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.

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We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.

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Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.

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Your husband knows you appreciate his desire to protect and provide when you praise his commitment to provide for you. You empathize when he reveals his male mindset about position, status, or rank at work.

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

[Husbands] do you realize the power of just holding your wife’s hand?

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.

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When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.

The Language of Love & Respect Book

The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).

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There is a plan to parent God’s way, even when our children may seek to go their own way at time. The secret is to follow this plan regardless. When you do, I believe you succeed in His eyes.

Love & Respect in the Family

A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.

Building Blocks

Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.

Love & Respect for a Lifetime

As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.

The Love and Respect Experience

Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.

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Love and Respect is a faith venture, not a formula.

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We are worth Jesus to the Father.

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