Motivating Your Man God’s Way: Applying One Word That Energizes Him to Love
In book one you discovered your husband’s code word. That single truth motivates your husband to serve you and even die for you. In this book, you are ready to apply this discovery.

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What You Will Learn
- Discover your husband's motivating code word and unleash its power.
- Decode and communicate your unique code to inspire your husband.
- Understand the true intentions behind your words and actions for effective motivation.
- Implement practical strategies to energize and strengthen your relationship.
- Explore transformative testimonies and real-life breakthroughs.
- Gain insights on navigating conflicts and fostering understanding.
- Harness the principles for extraordinary results in your marriage.
Motivating Your Man God's Way
Applying One Word That Energizes Him to Love
Unveiling the Motivating Code
In book one, you made a groundbreaking discovery – your husband's code word. This profound revelation serves as a driving force, motivating your husband to serve you and even make sacrifices on your behalf. Now, as you delve into this next book, you are prepared to apply and harness the power of this discovery.
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Empower Your Relationship
Dr. Eggerichs sheds light on the dynamics of communication between husbands and wives. He emphasizes that wives have their unique code, often unbeknownst to them, and they expect their husbands to decipher it. The key to motivating your husband lies in helping him understand the true intentions and messages behind your words and actions, essentially decoding your secret code. By seeking to comprehend your husband's code and implementing the principles outlined in this book, you can inspire him to better understand and respond to your own code. This process, when acted upon, will energize him to decode your messages and bring about extraordinary and amazing results.

Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
When we feel crippling discouragement by the sinful choices and outcomes of our kids, we must not let this permanently deter us from parenting God’s way.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
[Husbands] do you realize the power of just holding your wife’s hand?
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
We have different vulnerabilities. We can pass judgment on one another all day long or we can say God made us different and that’s ok.
Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
Through Jesus and Peter, God set forth His standard for living in the unconditional dimension: choose to be loving even when the other person is not; do what is right regardless of the treatment you receive. I believe this standard applies directly to marriage. A husband who speaks lovingly to his disrespectful wife will be rewarded; and a wife who speaks respectfully to her unloving, not-worthy-of-respect husband will be rewarded. Whether you are husband or wife, the reward is what can keep you going in the midst of the craziness: knowing that God commends you, knowing that you have found his favor for your words and actions.
Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
There is a plan to parent God’s way, even when our children may seek to go their own way at time. The secret is to follow this plan regardless. When you do, I believe you succeed in His eyes.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
We are either going to give in the darkness or we are going to give into the darkness.
Can you begin to trust that God feels love for you even when you don’t feel that love?
If a husband loves his wife as he should, she will feel honored and respected. If a wife respects her husband as she should, he will feel loved and appreciated. It’s a win-win.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
When others do not respond to our communication, we need to look first at our communication style. Is the other person incapable of hearing what we have to say? Or are we abrupt, brusque, and curt?
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
When we speak before we think, we widen the chances the other person(s) will be notably hurt, frustrated, confused, angry, fearful, or offended by something we’ve communicated.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
No matter what your struggle- criticism, constant conflict, sex, money, parenting, harsh words- learning to communicate the Love and Respect way can help you make crucial changes and build the kind of relationship that God blesses.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.

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