She Changed Her Marriage
Have you become someone that you wish you weren’t in your marriage? Are you wondering how that happened or what to do about it? Shannon took a hard look at herself and allowed God to begin to change her.
I am looking into the mirror and I'm finding a vixen woman. I have been extremely (as a huge understatement!!!) disrespectful to my husband. I have lashed out at him. He is a good willed man and never has intentions of bad things.
I had reasons to act that way.
I know God is working in me to change my tongue and my head. It was a big deal for me to be in a place that I could actually say these (respectful) things to my husband and be humble, to admit my wrongs and actually mean them, and to ask for forgiveness. I felt I had justified actions before. I had reasons to act and speak to him that way.
I turned into someone I didn’t like.
I now have seen that my actions were just an uncontrolled reaction to the actual cause of our problem. To me - he didn't love me. To him - I didn't respect him. I was hurt deeply and felt that if I said ugly things he would feel the way I do and see my pain and understand. That has gone on for many years and it seems that is the person I have turned into. I don't remember being this way. I wasn't this way when or even after we married, but I am this way now. Not for long with God’s help.
A new perspective…
Thank you for your book. It has given me a new perspective on what I should be as a wife. I know his hurt runs deep and it will take a long time for him to build that trust in me again but I am not giving up on him, our marriage, or God!
Try a new approach in your marriage. Trusting God and doing what He commands in your marriage is the best perspective to have. God would never command us to do something that doesn’t work.
Wives, can you put on respect out of reverence for Christ?
Husbands, can you put on love out of your reverence for Christ?
Doing so CAN change things!