Marriage

Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage

Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?

Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?

Men and women have differing sexual and emotional needs, which I have preached for forty years. But be assured, this does not mean that one does not have sexual needs and the other does not have emotional needs. Differing does not mean nonexistent.

What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?

What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?

Back before I began sharing across the world the Love and Respect message, based on Ephesians 5:33, we surveyed seven thousand people with the following question: "During a conflict with your spouse, do you feel unloved or disrespected?"

Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage

Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage

Truth be told, the vast majority of disagreements that arise between husband and wife are what I call disagreements in the gray areas of life. Meaning there is not a clear, black-and-white answer to who is right and who is wrong.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

Because a husband primarily sees through the lens of respect, he knows that he seeks to be respectful and honorable as a man. And, he knows that she falls short of being respectful, at least as respectful as he is as a man.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

In part 2 we will discuss pink’s “proof” that she is right, and in part 3 we will break down blue’s so-called evidence.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

Don’t Let the Conflict Reach 212 Degrees!!

Don’t Let the Conflict Reach 212 Degrees!!

The Bible says in Ephesians 4:26, "Be angry, and yet do not sin." This means we can be angry but there is a line we must not cross. Anger is okay up to a point, but we must then stop. And this scripture tells us that we can stop.

Can a Couple Show Unconditional Love and Respect Despite Differing Faith Convictions?

Can a Couple Show Unconditional Love and Respect Despite Differing Faith Convictions?

John and Charles Wesley, who founded the Methodist Church, almost weren’t born! Their parents, Samuel and Susanna, had differing convictions that divided them. Due to their faith, a disagreement arose about who should be their king in England. Both were of the same political party, the Tories, but Samuel favored King William III, whereas Susanna favored James II who had been exiled to France.

Husband says: “I Finally Get It!” - Conflict In Marriage

Husband says: “I Finally Get It!” - Conflict In Marriage

My parents divorced when I was one. They later remarried each other, but then separated again when I was five. A few years later they reunited for good, but even then it was far from a fairy-tale marriage. My childhood years were filled with memories of yelling and unsettling tension. I saw and heard things that are permanently etched in my soul, and I would cry myself to sleep at times.

Crazy Cycle Brief Survey and Meditation

Crazy Cycle Brief Survey and Meditation

Based on Ephesians 5:33 where God commands a husband to love and a wife respect, we discovered the Crazy Cycle: During conflict, without love a wife reacts without respect and without respect a husband reacts without love. Given this reflects your experience, please meditate and reflect on the below questions and brief answers to self-assess how you are doing during conflict. You may also submit your answers below each question.