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How Can We Respect Someone Who Is Not Very Respectable?
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How Can We Respect Someone Who Is Not Very Respectable?

“Respect is earned.” Have you heard that sentiment before? It’s a fairly popular thought in culture today, even bleeding into the church and our interpretations of passages like Ephesians 5:33: “However, each one of you [husbands] also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

How Can We Respect Someone Who Is Not Very Respectable?
Marriage
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Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?
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Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?

Men and women have differing sexual and emotional needs, which I have preached for forty years. But be assured, this does not mean that one does not have sexual needs and the other does not have emotional needs. Differing does not mean nonexistent.

Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?
Marriage
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What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?
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What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?

Back before I began sharing across the world the Love and Respect message, based on Ephesians 5:33, we surveyed seven thousand people with the following question: "During a conflict with your spouse, do you feel unloved or disrespected?"

What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?
Marriage
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Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage
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Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage

Truth be told, the vast majority of disagreements that arise between husband and wife are what I call disagreements in the gray areas of life. Meaning there is not a clear, black-and-white answer to who is right and who is wrong.

Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage
Marriage
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Does Jesus’ Claim to be “the Son of Man” Mean He Wasn’t the Son of God?
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Does Jesus’ Claim to be “the Son of Man” Mean He Wasn’t the Son of God?

Some claim that because Jesus Christ describes Himself as "the Son of Man" (instead of “the Son of God”) in three of the gospels about Christ's life and ministry (Matthew, Mark, and Luke), this proves he was not the Son of God, and thus not God.

Does Jesus’ Claim to be “the Son of Man” Mean He Wasn’t the Son of God?
Christian Life
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Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?

Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?

Does God Intend Mutual Sexual Satisfaction in Marriage?
Marriage
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What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?

What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?

What Could They Mean When She Says, “I Need Respect” and He Says, “I Need Love”?
Marriage
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10
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Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage

Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage

Five Strategies to Achieving Win-Win in Marriage
Marriage
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5
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Does Jesus’ Claim to be “the Son of Man” Mean He Wasn’t the Son of God?

Does Jesus’ Claim to be “the Son of Man” Mean He Wasn’t the Son of God?

Does Jesus’ Claim to be “the Son of Man” Mean He Wasn’t the Son of God?
Christian Life
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Have You Learned Yet What a “Sacrifice of Thanksgiving” Is?

Have You Learned Yet What a “Sacrifice of Thanksgiving” Is?

In 1 Thessalonians 5:18, the apostle Paul reminded the church in Thessalonica, “In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (5:18). This is one of four times in which Scripture clearly tells us what the will of God is. I call these the four universal wills of God, and I have written about them extensively in my book, The Four Wills of God, and how our following these four universal wills of God can lead to learning His unique will for us in our individual lives.

Have You Learned Yet What a “Sacrifice of Thanksgiving” Is?
Christian Life
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You Want Your Husband to Hear Your Heart—The Answer May Be to First H.E.A.R. Him

You Want Your Husband to Hear Your Heart—The Answer May Be to First H.E.A.R. Him

A wife longs for her husband to hear her heart. She becomes insecure when he does not. What can she do? Given your husband has goodwill and wants to do God's will, I suggest looking in four areas and trying to “H.E.A.R.” your husband. H:Honor his desire to honor God. If there is any positive thing you see in his walk with God, say, "I want to honor your desire to honor God. I have noticed how you _____." Fill in the blank. While most likely there are things you wish he did in his walk with God that he isn't currently doing, don't go there. This exercise is about addressing the positive—how you see your husband honoring God—because it is true, honorable, and right.

You Want Your Husband to Hear Your Heart—The Answer May Be to First H.E.A.R. Him
Marriage
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Sometimes the Solution in a Troubled Marriage Is to Do Less!

Sometimes the Solution in a Troubled Marriage Is to Do Less!

Can a wife be guilty of helping her husband too much? At first glance, that may sound preposterous, right? I mean, of all the burdensome things a wife deals with during the day in managing her home and feeding her marriage, do we really have to add “don’t help husband too much” to her list? The events of Genesis 2 speak to this, actually. Take another look at these verses that you are probably more than familiar with already:

Sometimes the Solution in a Troubled Marriage Is to Do Less!
Marriage
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How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part II)

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part II)

In a previous article, I wrote about some of the disheartening times when Paul’s Holy Spirit-inspired words on sexual intimacy in 1 Corinthians 7 were spun so as to justify one-sided coercion rather than mutual consent. Unfortunately, throughout history many husbands have taken a one-sided position to 1 Corinthians 7:4 and demanded fulfillment of their male conjugal rights. This is clearly contrary to Abba Father's revelation to husbands and wives and ignores the second half of 1 Corinthians 7:4.

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part II)
Marriage
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How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part 1)

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part 1)

In the near future, I will be going deeper on the topic of sex in marriage for all of our Love and Respect friends. The title? Love and Respect (and Sex): Coming Together as Husband and Wife. Interested in learning more? Would you like to add your stories to the content? Read on, and I’ll show you how.

How Have You and Your Spouse Achieved Win-Win in Your Sexual Intimacy? (Part 1)
Marriage
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Not the Marriage Conference I Was Expecting

Not the Marriage Conference I Was Expecting

Thank you Connie Cavanaugh for sharing your experience at a Love and Respect conference. In the weeks leading up to the Love and Respect marriage conference at church last week, the women were excited, but the men were tentative.

Not the Marriage Conference I Was Expecting
Marriage
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The Two-Edged Sword of Love and Respect: Virtue And Vice

The Two-Edged Sword of Love and Respect: Virtue And Vice

Have you ever told someone the oft-used phrase that “two wrongs don’t make a right”? If you have kids you no doubt have. When big brother pushes little sister and she charges at him in response, knocking him over backward, both get in trouble with mom and dad because “two wrongs don’t make a right.” And it’s true: Never in the history of sibling rivalries, sports, war, politics, or any other area have conflicts been appropriately resolved after the initial victim retaliated with his or her own dose of medicine.

The Two-Edged Sword of Love and Respect: Virtue And Vice
Marriage
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What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

In my conferences on Love and Respect, I like to use the analogy that men and women are as different as pink is from blue. Women look at the world through pink sunglasses, hear through pink hearing aids, and speak through a pink megaphone; while men do it all with blue. Which basically means a man and a woman can hear the exact same sentence and interpret it in completely different ways, or even say the exact same thing but mean completely different things with their words.

What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?
Marriage
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