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A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch
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A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch

In my book Speak Your Mind, I offer a four-point checklist that everything we communicate should be. Whether we’re talking to our spouse, our children, our boss, or the bank teller, we should ask ourselves, “Is that which I’m about to communicate: 1) true? 2) kind? 3) necessary, and 4) clear?

A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch
Christian Life
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When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song
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When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

In a national study done years ago, four hundred men were asked to choose between one of two negative experiences: If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure?

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song
Marriage
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2

In part 1, we shared 1 Peter 3:1–2 and Peter’s command to a wife to remain respectful to her disobedient husband. The first major reason to do this is because by doing so they will find favor in the eyes of God.

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2
Marriage
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 1
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 1

A woman wrote to me: "My husband has expressed that he does not love me and now is involved with another woman. I have read your book and have applied many things concerning this respect message.

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 1
Marriage
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Why Would a Christ-Follower Go Along with the Carnal Ideas of the World?
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Why Would a Christ-Follower Go Along with the Carnal Ideas of the World?

Emerson writes about why believers might give in to sinful ideas, citing fear, desire for approval, or suppression of biblical truth, urging readers to reflect on their own temptations and stand firm in their faith.

Why Would a Christ-Follower Go Along with the Carnal Ideas of the World?
Christian Life
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When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song
Marriage
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6
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 2
Marriage
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What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 1

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 1

What? Respecting a Disobedient Husband - Part 1
Marriage
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6
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Why Would a Christ-Follower Go Along with the Carnal Ideas of the World?

Why Would a Christ-Follower Go Along with the Carnal Ideas of the World?

Why Would a Christ-Follower Go Along with the Carnal Ideas of the World?
Christian Life
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She Applies Respect to Her Fiancé After Reading Love and Respect

She Applies Respect to Her Fiancé After Reading Love and Respect

I always love hearing from others after they have begun putting into practice the principles of love and respect. It is especially encouraging when I hear from young couples who decided to be proactive about implementing love and respect, rather than waiting to see if the need arises for marital help. Love and respect, as explained to us in Ephesians 5:33, is not just about conflict resolution; it is the foundation for a successful God-honoring marriage, intended to be practiced from day one, just as this young lady learned:

She Applies Respect to Her Fiancé After Reading Love and Respect
Marriage
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A Wife Respects and then Receives the Love She Desires

A Wife Respects and then Receives the Love She Desires

Women want to be loved by their husbands. Adored. Desired. Cherished. That should not be a surprise to anyone. You would be hard-pressed to find someone who would dispute a woman’s desire for love. But sadly, just because a woman desires love more than anything else from her husband, and even though he may say that he absolutely adores her with all his heart, that does not mean she always feels loved by him. And not feeling loved by the one she needs to feel loved by the most can cause a significant gap between her and her husband.

A Wife Respects and then Receives the Love She Desires
Marriage
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Is It a Stereotype or a Pink and Blue Difference That God Gave Your Spouse?

Is It a Stereotype or a Pink and Blue Difference That God Gave Your Spouse?

Some folks resist anything that seems to reinforce a stereotype. Their initial response to stereotypes is usually to defend individualism and claim that such generalities do not define or explain their situations.How do you feel about stereotypes when it comes to explaining differences between you and your spouse? What if I said that many women see life through pink sunglasses and many men see life through blue sunglasses and these views color what each sees, especially in conflict? Similarly, she wears pink hearing aids and he wears blue hearing aids and each “hears” something different during heated moments in marriage.

Is It a Stereotype or a Pink and Blue Difference That God Gave Your Spouse?
Marriage
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What Came First—the Chicken or the Egg?

What Came First—the Chicken or the Egg?

In marriage one spouse tends to assign blame to the other for starting the marital troubles. For example, in courtship the husband was very talkative but after marriage he talked less, even withdrawing and stonewalling during conflict. From the wife’s perspective, this was a bait-and-switch trick. He tricked her into thinking he was a communicative person but after marriage refused to meet her motional need to connect via sharing hearts and feelings.

What Came First—the Chicken or the Egg?
Marriage
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Can Sharing Love and Respect Transform What Seems Impossible?

Can Sharing Love and Respect Transform What Seems Impossible?

Have you applied the message of love and respect, found in Ephesians 5:33, to your marriage and reaped the benefits of a fruitful and rewarding relationship with your spouse? If so, as you probably have done with a wonderful recipe or a highly effective diet, you most likely look to share this message with all of your married friends and desire that they, too, would discover this not-so-secret “secret” and have the flourishing relationship with their spouse that you have with yours.

Can Sharing Love and Respect Transform What Seems Impossible?
Marriage
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Why Does My Wife React Negatively When I Am Trying to Let Her Know My Heart and Need?

Why Does My Wife React Negatively When I Am Trying to Let Her Know My Heart and Need?

This is a common question I receive from many husbands who have become intentional about opening up more often to their wives and sharing their hearts and needs. But when her response isn’t what they expected—in some cases the situation even worsens—they wonder, Why is she reacting this way? Can’t she see how I’m trying? The following is my typical response: I am uncertain why your wife has reacted in this way, but let me offer several possibilities.

Why Does My Wife React Negatively When I Am Trying to Let Her Know My Heart and Need?
Marriage
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How Do You Spell Respect To A Husband?

How Do You Spell Respect To A Husband?

RESPECT = C.H.A.I.R.S. Wives, in the Love and Respect book, I explain Biblically what God’s Word reveals about respecting the husband’s deepest desires as a male. These are the salient concepts from my findings. Do these make sense to you? What doesn’t make sense to you? I would love to hear from you.

How Do You Spell Respect To A Husband?
Marriage
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How Do You Spell Love to a Wife?

How Do You Spell Love to a Wife?

Husbands, in the Love and Respect book, I explain Biblically what God’s Word reveals about loving a wife. These are the salient concepts from my findings. Do these make sense to you? What doesn’t make sense to you? I would love to hear from you.

How Do You Spell Love to a Wife?
Marriage
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2
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