Love & Respect Conference and 10-Week Study
Before there was a New York Times bestselling book, there was a conference. For over 20 years millions of couples have applied the Love & Respect message to their marriage.
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In Love & Respect, author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs introduces the concept of the Crazy Cycle, a negative communication pattern that can occur in marriages. When one partner responds in a way that feels disrespectful to the other partner, it can trigger a negative reaction, causing the cycle to continue. Learn how to break the cycle and build a stronger relationship.
To break the Crazy Cycle, Dr. Eggerichs suggests that couples need to recognize and address the underlying needs for love and respect in both partners. By showing love and respect to one another, couples can create a positive cycle of interaction and strengthen their relationship. You will learn practical tips and exercises to cultivate this positive cycle.
Through the Crazy Cycle, Love & Respect offers valuable insights into the ways that negative communication patterns can impact a marriage. By understanding and addressing these patterns, couples can build a stronger and more loving relationship.
In Love & Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs presents an alternative to the Crazy Cycle: the Energizing Cycle. This positive communication pattern starts with the wife showing love to her husband, which makes him feel respected. In turn, the husband shows respect to his wife, which makes her feel loved. This creates a positive feedback loop where both partners feel loved and respected.
By consistently showing appreciation, affection, and empathy, couples can cultivate the Energizing Cycle and build a strong and healthy relationship. Love and respect are two essential needs for both partners in a marriage, and meeting these needs can lead to greater intimacy, connection, and satisfaction in the relationship.
The Energizing Cycle offers a practical and effective way for couples to break negative communication patterns and build a more positive and fulfilling relationship. By intentionally showing love and respect to one another, couples can strengthen their bond and experience greater happiness and fulfillment in their marriage.
In Love & Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs introduces the concept of the Rewarded Cycle, where each partner meets the other's needs and is rewarded for their efforts. The wife shows respect to her husband, which motivates him to show love to her. In turn, the husband's love motivates the wife to show respect to him. This creates a positive cycle of interaction where both partners feel appreciated and fulfilled.
By understanding each other's needs and consistently meeting them, couples can cultivate the Rewarded Cycle and build a strong and healthy relationship. The book provides practical advice for couples to understand each other's needs and communicate effectively.
The Rewarded Cycle offers a way for couples to break negative communication patterns and build a more positive and fulfilling relationship. By consistently meeting each other's needs, couples can strengthen their bond and experience greater happiness and fulfillment in their marriage.
In Love & Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs offers practical advice for couples to improve their communication and build a stronger relationship. The book presents the C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym, which stands for Closeness, Openness, Understanding, Peacemaking, Loyalty, and Esteem.
Each element of the C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym represents a key aspect of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. By working to develop these qualities in their marriage, couples can build a stronger and more loving relationship. The book provides practical tips and exercises for couples to develop these qualities.
The C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym provides a roadmap for couples to build a strong and healthy relationship. By cultivating closeness, openness, understanding, peacemaking, loyalty, and esteem, couples can strengthen their bond and experience greater happiness and fulfillment in their marriage.
Are you yearning for a closer, more fulfilling marriage? Look no further than "Love & Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. The C.H.A.I.R.S. concept presented in the book is a powerful tool that can help you build a healthy, vibrant relationship with your spouse.
Through the book, you will discover practical strategies for improving communication, resolving conflicts, and cultivating a positive feedback loop of love and respect. You'll learn how to communicate effectively, honor one another's needs and feelings, show affection and empathy, deepen intimacy, develop important relationship skills, and experience sexual fulfillment.
The C.H.A.I.R.S. concept is a guide to help you focus on the key areas of your relationship that matter most. By intentionally showing love and respect to one another, you can break negative communication patterns and cultivate a positive cycle of interaction. With the practical advice and biblical principles presented in "Love & Respect," you can create a deeply fulfilling marriage that is characterized by intimacy, connection, and joy. Don't wait any longer – start building the marriage of your dreams today.
What Attendees Have Said
A Gentle Release of the Pain
"Well a miracle happened! I read the Love and Respect book entirely last week...As we went thru the (Love and Respect) DVDs I could feel a gentle release of the pain that gripped our marriage for 22 years. Rather than a “light-bulb” moment, it’s been more of a dimmer switch getting brighter with the hope we’ll be OK now that we have some tools for an even better marriage. A softening has occurred…We are already teaching the kids some of the principles and have decided to re-watch the DVDs with the kids."
Marriages Transformed and Saved From Divorce
My husband and I are married 18 years and are a blended family. We have done love and respect 4 times!!! We purchased the conference and used it for 3 bible studies in our home over the years and have seen many marriages transformed. Three were saved from the verge of divorce and are thriving wonderfully.
I Had Been Praying For a Miracle…Then…Something Happened!
"...something happened when you got up and started speaking. My husband woke up. When we left…he apologized for not being a good husband and wants to make things better. I apologized to him for my attitudes. Things are starting to turn around. Thank you and please keep us in your prayers."
After 13 Years Our Marriage is Like a Dream…It’s a Miracle!
"After 13 years I can finally say our marriage is truly like a dream. It is unbelievable how tender and fun and honest and caring and loving and joyful and playful and kind and intimate and generous and forgiving and sincere and giving and wonderful our marriage is. It is a MIRACLE. And only with God’s guidance in His Word and from your Love and Respect series has this been possible."
Married 31 Years but Had Not Received God’s Wonderful Gift
"BUT...As a wonderful, undeserved gift from the Father who so incredibly bestows good things on his children, God opened my husband's heart… he became a changed man. A man who loves me, adores me, apologizes to me quickly…and talks to me all the time. Praise God from whom all blessings flow. Thank you for being willing to share the message of love and respect across our nation. I am forever grateful."
The Adult Kids Called Their Parent’s Marital Turn-Around a Miracle
"...About a year ago, after going to countless seminars, numerous marriage counselors, and who knows how many books, they discovered the Love & Respect series. To the rest of us it was just another stab in the dark and the seemingly obvious expectation of a divorce was still there. When my parents did a complete 180-degree turn around, it was very difficult not to be still in denial and hurt and expect it not to last too long. It was definitely something I would call, without any doubt, a miracle."
Almost Immediately Our Marriage Began to be Restored
"We watched the videos of your conference...I cry as I write this, because it was almost immediately that our marriage began to be restored…(my husband) said he could not stand to be away from his family any longer and he asked the kids and I to be with him. What makes this a miracle was that we didn’t go back into the same broken marriage, but instead into one that was healed."
I Almost Drove Off Into the Grass!
"Probably no way to ever thank you. Ever. I am telling everyone about the DVD series and trying to get our pastor to show it at church on Sunday mornings.”
The Past Few Months Have Been Heavenly
"I went to church and prayed and prayed for reconciliation. My ex-husband... confessed about a year ago that he wanted to try again. My heart soared with emotion! Glory to God! Could this be true? I thought it was done and over, but God had other ideas. The “story of us” was far from over. The past few months have been heavenly, and I owe it all to Christ’s message and your delivery of that message..."
"God began to do miracles in each of our hearts, and we could each see how God had been changing our hearts in various ways while we were apart, and we had no idea we were both experiencing that. We both got a copy of the Love and Respect book and were reading it over the phone and talking through our past difficulties and differences..."
I Never Thought This Was Possible
"The turnaround in our marriage is a miracle and is a profound event in my life…we have had hard discussions since I finished the (Love & Respect) book and since we attended the conference, but not one has turned into an argument. We have had disagreements, but not disconnection. Every hard discussion has resulted in a deeper level of intimacy in our marriage. I never thought this was possible. God is able to do immeasurably more than we ever ask or imagine."
You’ve Got to Watch This!
" My friend basically stuck your DVD series in my face & said, “You've got to watch this!” My husband & I did. In fact, we still are for the 2nd time around. Just yesterday my husband said, "We are supposed to call couples so we can pray together." This is not the "norm" for my husband. To invite people into our home so we can talk & be transparent...Wow!"
This Message Transformed Us
"We attended the conference and want to let you know how blessed we were by the truth you spoke. God has used your message to transform us and our marriage. We are amazed at the miracle and work He is doing in us individually and in our marriage. Your message of love & respect gave us a great start, and God has been gracious to help us along in the journey."
The Divorce Papers Were in the Car
"...I've stopped the divorce…we've spoken to our daughter and shared with her our change of heart and we say thank you. There is no doubt in my life that I'm watching a miracle in action and I say, bless you for your time and effort."
I Want Everyone to Know This Truth
"...I began reading the book the day I bought it. I was shocked and blown away by the truth that was written page after page. I began to see my half in the mess and better yet, I began to see how to resolve our problems and reconcile our marriage...Truly this work and information is a miracle in my life…Everyone needs to know and hear the truth that has set me free! May the Lord richly bless you as you have blessed me!"
A Miracle Is Happening In Our Marriage
"I do not have a 'sudden miracle' story for you currently, but I do believe a miracle is happening gradually in our marriage relationship. My husband and I are going to see a counselor...and he initiated this! Although he said at the conference that he felt we were 'beyond this' in terms of the answers we need, he has noticeably softened since, and I know I have changed my attitude as a result of the heart-changing, mind-renewing message you shared."
A Wonderful Change in Our Relationship…A Miracle Breakthrough
"Your course just fit in perfectly and filled in the missing pieces…We are to respect our differences. Laughter and peace has come into our home again..."
A Counselor Experiences a Miracle
"Love and Respect was nothing short of a miracle in saving my marriage, and I would love the opportunity to make others aware of your Ministry and what it can do for a marriage. I hold a Master’s degree in Counseling, and I am a Christian…Thank you so much, and God Bless you both for saving my marriage."
God Worked His Plan
"One of God's miracles in all of this is (we) made a commitment to go for counseling and the person that gave us the counseling used all his teaching based on Love and Respect. First we had to re-read your book, then we went through your 5 DVDs on Love and Respect…with obedience, faith, patience and with (the) Love and Respect teaching God worked His plans His way..."
The Changes in My Marriage Can Only Be Attributed to a Miracle!
"The changes in my marriage are so drastic that it can only be attributed to a miracle…my life will NEVER be the same. I will, with God's help, ALWAYS seek God and His ways. My marriage has changed and my children will be blessed because of it. This truly does make a difference for generations to come."
A Miracle in My Life... Great Joy in My Marriage!
"My own experiences along with your advice have resulted in a miracle in my life. I enjoy my husband as I did when we were courting (more, even). Our sex life has improved 100% as I find respecting my husband a turn-on (believe it or not). Today, he gets more than enough respect (and sex) and I get all the love and protection that I could ever want. There is now great joy in my marriage thanks to your help."
A Message So Many Need
...having heard the teachings/speaking of Emerson and Sarah, we both agree that your ministry is one so many more people need. We needed it as a refresher, an uplifter, a challenger to reset the clock and ensure we're staying fresh in commitments to Christ and each other.
Wished They Had Watched Before Separating
I have now realized what that empty feeling in my stomach was. It was RESPECT for me and LOVE for her. Mind blown. It's not about right and wrong but mutual understanding. Wish I had watched this my spouse 6 months [ago] as we probably would not be separated if we saw the videos together.
Watches Again For Greater Understanding
Please let me say that I have enjoyed your material for quite a while. Several years ago I purchased a DVD set of an earlier seminar that I and my wife have watched several times together. I still like to sit down with the DVD's and freshen up my understanding of the marriage relationship.
Look Forward to Watching Again
...We are looking forward to going through the Conference again and having this material at our fingertips for reference. "My Response is my Responsibility" has been tremendously helpful not only for our marriage but in so many other areas of our life.
Good Marriage to One of Tremendous Mutual Blessing
...My wife and I saw the application of this material help us take our very good marriage to one of tremendous mutual blessing! We have now taught the first small group version as well as the subsequent two video small group versions to over 50 couples over the past decade, and without fail it has had a positive life changing impact on them...
Refresher After Tough Season
We attended this weekend and I will say that it has renewed our commitment to each other. I will say that the live event was even better than what we expected. Thank you for your ministry and may the Lord continue using you.
Biblical Foundation, Keeping Christ In The Center Of Our Daily Lives
Love and Respect has an amazing strategy that we noticed immediately. It has a biblical foundation, keeping Christ in the center of our daily lives, and the amazing message of the gospel and how to receive salvation...
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Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.About Love & Respect