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Why Do You Say My Defensiveness Makes Things Worse in My Marriage?
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Discover how defensiveness quietly fuels the "Crazy Cycle" in marriage—where feeling unloved or disrespected triggers reactions that unintentionally hurt your spouse even more. Emerson Eggerichs shares eye-opening personal stories and practical insights to help you recognize when your shield becomes a club, own your fears, and break the cycle for deeper connection and healing.
Questions to Consider
- What fears might be driving my defensive reactions right now, even if they feel completely justified?
- How does my spouse most likely experience my "protection" when I withdraw, over-explain, or use sarcasm?
- Am I more focused on being right in this moment, or on becoming more righteous in how I respond?
- What would change in our relationship if I started owning my overreactions with humility instead of justifying them?
