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An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

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Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the essential elements of an aphrodisiac for wives. Drawing on insights from the Love & Respect Book and Workbook, they emphasize the crucial role of emotional closeness in fostering a satisfying sexual relationship. The acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. encapsulates the key ingredients husbands should cultivate—being Close to, Open with, Understanding of, at Peace with, Loyal to, and Esteeming of their wives. The discussion delves into the profound connection between emotional intimacy and sexual satisfaction, challenging husbands to recognize that for most wives, sex begins when they get out of bed, not when they get into bed. The episode explores the spiritual dimension of fulfilling one's duty to a spouse, offering practical advice for husbands seeking to provide the emotional and relational stimulation their wives desire.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.
Author, Speaker, Pastor
Jonathan Eggerichs, Psy.D.

Questions to Consider

  1. Emerson wrote, “Your wife longs to connect sexually, but typically only after she feels assured of your love.” Is your wife assured of your unconditional love for her? How do you know? Do you see a correlation between her assurance of your love for her and your sexual relationship?
  2. What do you feel are strong areas for you in C.O.U.P.L.E.? Where do you need improvement? How can you begin working on that today?
  3. Do you show sexual attraction toward your wife throughout the day, when it isn’t leading directly to the physical act of sex? Why is this important to her? How might “sex begin at breakfast” for you and your wife?
  4. Have you ever been the one who was desiring less sex in the marriage? If so, why do you think that was?

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