Mother and Son: The Respect Effect
In my book "Mother & Son: The Respect Effect," I reveal the key to experiencing a deeper connection with your son, whether 4 or 40. The key is to speak his "respect talk" alongside your "love talk." This language not only motivates and influences him to respond to you, but it also fosters a meaningful connection. My wife Sarah said, "If I had known about Respect-Talk earlier, I would have been a better mother." Let this Collection Page be a guide to experiencing the respect effect alongside the book and our online course on the same topic.
Moms, God Wants to G.U.I.D.E. You in Your Parenting
Moms, do you find comfort knowing that you can look to God to help you in your parenting? How reassuring it is for us that Jesus refers to the Holy Spirit as our Helper (John 14:16). I love His description. He is the Helper because we need help. How simple is that? And, it is okay to need help. It is most appropriate to echo the psalmist, "Let Your hand be ready to help me, for I have chosen Your precepts” (Psalm 119:173).
How to Connect with Your Adult Son
Every mother wishes to connect emotionally with her adult son. However, sons can be a bit more independent and distant than daughters, who stay more connected with their moms and not infrequently wish to live near their mothers or talk regularly with their moms. An adult son typically moves out and intends to start a family with a wife, and generally is more autonomous. Jesus said, “a man shall leave his father and mother” (Mark 10:7). This is normal for a young man to do.
Meet Your Son’s Deepest Need for Respect
More times than I can recall, a wife has attended our Love and Respect Conference and connected the dots that applying respect to her son has also been deeply needed at home. There is even a Crazy Cycle of its own that spins between a mother and her son: without respect a son reacts without love, and without love a mother reacts without respect. I have heard many testimonies like the one below that show the life-changing results that come when a mother understands and begins applying respect to her son as well.
How One Mother’s Respect-Talk Found the Hero in Her Son
In my book Mother &Son: The Respect Effect, I share the need for not only your husband to feel and hear your respect, but your son as well, no matter his age. Even your preschooler has a “man inside the boy” who naturally responds to words of respect, as little Samuel’s mother learned and applied in her relationship with her son. Read about her experience with using Respect-Talk and ask yourself how you might begin applying the same with your son:Dear Dr. Emerson,
A Son's Letter to His Mother
A man writes to me: Emerson --I wanted to share with you the note I just sent my mom, sending her links to your most recent book, Mother and Son: The Respect Effect. She raised three boys, all of whom are walking with God, raising godly families, and making a big difference for the Kingdom. Her legacy is amazing....
Can Silence From a Mom Cause a Son to Speak?
I asked our son David on the first day of 5th grade, “So how was your day?” “Good.” “Anything exciting happen?” “No.” “What did you do?” “Nothing.” Second Day: “So David how was your day?” “Good.” “Anything exciting happen?” “No.” “What did you do?” “Nothing.” And so the conversation continued like this for the rest of the week until Friday when he said, “Mom, it’s the same everyday. If anything changes, I’ll let you know!”
6 Prayers For Mothers to Pray Based on the Word of God
James says we have not because we ask not, so praying is fundamental (James 4:2). There is power in asking! There is less of God’s power when we do not ask. We receive less when we are remiss in asking. But because we ask does not mean we always receive. Jesus prayed three times for the cup of suffering to pass (Matthew 26:44). The apostle Paul thrice prayed for the thorn in the flesh to be removed (2 Corinthians 12:8). God did not answer their specific prayers.
As a Mom, What Do I Do When I Feel Tired and Hurt?
You give, give, and give. But the Bible provides a warning: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9). A mother who does good toward her son day after day can grow weary and lose heart when she does not observe any fruitful reaping. When her boy does not listen and willfully disobeys, he can wear her out on any given day. When exhausted, she can let down her guard. She can let go of controlling her emotions. On top of this, if she is feeling horrible about herself, who cares? She lets it rip against her boy.
What is so Unique About Emerson's Message to Mothers?
Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss Emerson's most recent book, Mother & Son: The Respect Effect, a book that Emerson sees as an encyclopedia of information that a mom can turn to during various moments of conflict with her son. In this episode three topics are discussed: The Message of Respect is unique compared to the message of love; The Outcome of Respect is unique according to mothers; and The Thirst for Respect is unique in boys compared to girls.