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My Spouse and I Love Each Other, So Why Does It Sometimes Feel as Though We Are Headed in Different Directions?
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Two people can deeply love each other and still want different things. Emerson explains why differing goals do not mean a marriage is failing, unpacks the striking mutuality Paul describes in 1 Corinthians 7, and walks through one couple's real win-win story for spouses who feel pulled in opposite directions and want to honor what matters to both of them.
Questions to Consider
- When your goals compete with your spouse's, do you tend to read their goal as evidence that they do not care about you?
- What legitimate good might be underneath what your spouse is seeking right now, even if you do not share it with the same intensity?
- Have you clearly explained the deeper good underneath what matters to you, or have you mostly argued for your position?
- Where might a little brainstorming, like Mike's Tuesday evening yard work, let you honor both of your goals instead of deciding whose goal wins?
