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Session 1: Our Value and Our Intent
In this opening session, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs introduces two “lightbulb moments”: your value is God-given, not spouse-driven, and seeing Jesus beyond your spouse.
Session 2: Our Eternity and Our Worldview
In this session, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs teaches two lightbulb moments: living with eternity in mind and choosing the Holy Word over Hollywood.
Session 3: Our Clarity and Our Harmony
In this session, Emerson teaches that healthy communication requires mutual understanding, not just talking, and how to work as teammates find win-win solutions.
Session 4: Our Acknowledgement and Our Tension
In this session, Emerson reveals that many conflicts are not about right vs. wrong, but about different “shades of right" and how not to let the 20% define the 80%.
Session 5: Our Self Awareness and Our Authenticity
In this session, Emerson sparks the self evaluation, "When I get defensive, do I get offensive too?" and how explains how to use motivation without manipulation.
Session 6: Our Forgiveness and Our Empowerment
In this final session, learn to practice forgiveness by letting go of rehearsal and retaliation—and discover the freedom of “my response is my responsibility."
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A Message From Emerson
I’d like to personally invite you to join me for the Lightbulb Moments in Marriage online study.
Over the last 25 years, I have received tens of thousands of emails from husbands and wives sharing what changed in their marriage. Again and again, I kept hearing the same phrase: “I had a lightbulb moment.”
These were not merely emotional reactions. They were spiritual revelations, moments of clarity from God’s Word that helped couples see themselves, their spouse, and their marriage in a whole new way.
From those many stories, I have gathered 12 of the most powerful lightbulb moments and shaped them into this six-session video Bible study. My hope is that as you watch, the Lord will give you your own moments of insight, encouragement, and renewed hope for your marriage.
I hope you’ll join me.
This video series is available to everyone with a Love & Respect membership. The Lightbulb Moments In Marriage Workbook is also available for purchase by our publishers to help guide you through the videos.
What You Will Learn
Lightbulb #1: God-Given, Not Spouse-Driven
Learn why your worth is settled in Christ, not determined by your spouse’s moods, words, or actions.
Lightbulb #2: Seeing Jesus Beyond the Shoulder of Our Spouse
Discover how marriage becomes a tool and test to deepen your love and reverence for Christ, even in difficult moments.
Lightbulb #3: Living with “Well Done!” in Mind
See how every act of love and respect in marriage carries eternal significance and matters deeply to Christ.
Lightbulb #4: The Holy Word, Not Hollywood
Learn to build your view of marriage on God’s Word rather than cultural expectations, romantic fantasy, or worldly definitions of love.
Lightbulb #5: Understanding Each Other, Not Just Talking
Explore why healthy communication is more than speaking clearly—it requires understanding what your spouse is feeling beneath the words.
Lightbulb #6: Same Team, Same Goal, Different Plays
Learn how couples can work toward shared goals while honoring different preferences, perspectives, and needs.
Lightbulb #7: Not Wrong, Just Different Shades of Right
Discover how many conflicts are not about right versus wrong, but about different preferences and valid perspectives in gray areas.
Lightbulb #8: Don’t Let the 20% Define the 80%
Learn to keep frustrations, weaknesses, and recurring tensions from defining the whole marriage or blinding you to your spouse’s goodwill.
Lightbulb #9: When I Get Defensive, Do I Get Offensive Too?
Recognize how defensive reactions can come across as offensive, and learn to see your spouse’s reactions with greater self-awareness and grace.
Lightbulb #10: Motivation Without Manipulation
Learn why love and respect are the keys to lasting influence, and why negativity, criticism, or withdrawal cannot produce healthy change.
Lightbulb #11: Not Offending—Just Misunderstood
Practice forgiveness by looking past assumed offense, releasing resentment, and recognizing that many hurts begin as misunderstandings.
Lightbulb #12: Free and Strong When I Live Out, “My Response Is My Responsibility”
Discover the freedom of owning your response, allowing Christ to empower you to love, respect, forgive, and respond with strength.
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Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.
Prior to launching the Love and Respect Conferences, Dr. Eggerichs was the senior pastor of Trinity Church in Lansing, MI for nearly 20 years. He has graduate degrees from Wheaton College and Dubuque Seminary and a Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology from Michigan State University. He is author of the New York Times bestseller, Love & Respect, which has sold over 2 milliion copies.
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Who is this class for?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
How much knowledge and experience do I need to take this class
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
Is this class good for children?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
How exactly does the month-long class work?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
What is the time commitment and schedule for the class?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
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