In a previous article, I wrote about some of the disheartening times when Paul’s Holy Spirit-inspired words on sexual intimacy in 1 Corinthians 7 were spun so as to justify one-sided coercion rather than mutual consent. Unfortunately, throughout history many husbands have taken a one-sided position to 1 Corinthians 7:4 and demanded fulfillment of their male conjugal rights. This is clearly contrary to Abba Father's revelation to husbands and wives and ignores the second half of 1 Corinthians 7:4.Read More
Have you ever meditated on 1 Corinthians 7:11, which says, ". . . (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife"? What's the backstory to this verse? Paul does not mention adultery or abandonment in this text—the two traditional justifications for biblical divorce—so it is safe to infer that biblical grounds for divorce are not in play here. He simply says that the husband is not to divorce and the wife should not marry someone else in the event that she leaves her husband.Read More
Couples in Bible times didn’t use terms like Crazy Cycle, decoding, and air hose, but they still faced the same kind of communication problems people face today. And these women and men had the same basic needs for Love and Respect.
One incident from the life of King David is a classic illustration of how a wife can stomp on her husband’s air hose. When King Saul gave David his daughter Michal to be his wife, the marriage appeared to start out well. First Samuel 18:20 tells us, “Now Michal, Saul’s daughter, loved David.”Read More
Parents need to be treated with honor and respect. Exodus 20:12--“Honor your father and your mother.” Leviticus 19:3 --“Each of you must respect your mother and father.” Matthew 15:4 --“Honor your father and your mother.” Hebrews 12:9 --“We had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them.”Read More
A recent social media post had a simple quote from The Language Of Love & Respect, which hundreds of people commented on and shared. The quote was about the Jesus way of talking within marriage and relationships. Emerson and Jonathan discuss this during today's episode, including how to speak words that are Truthful, Uplifting, Forgiving, Thankful, and Scriptural (T.U.F.T.S.).Read More
One Christmas morning when I was eight, I went into the living room where the presents surrounded the Christmas tree. My eye immediately caught sight of a robot! Yes, a robot, sparkling shiny and silver, just about my height. My mind raced a hundred miles an hour. Where was the control, so I could make it walk, talk and perform any task I desired?Read More
Emerson shares a powerful biblical principle evidenced in the midst of the horror of the Aurora, Colorado movie theater shootings on July 20, 2012.Read More
Do you remember when you wanted a bike for Christmas but your parents wouldn't say if you would get it or not? You were in suspense…and then Christmas morning arrived. There under the tree was your bright, shiny bike, and you gasped, “AHHH!”Read More
Step 1 in following Jesus’ example of how to forgive, is to sympathize with the offender (see last blog on “There but for the Grace of God go I”). But even though you have sympathized with your spouseRead More
Through the years I have read and listened to many excellent thinkers discuss the question “How does one forgive? What is the process and how can you do it especially when you don’t feel all that forgiving?”Read More
Many of us squirm a bit when we read our Lord’s words: “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew 6:14-15 NLT).Read More
Wherever I teach about goodwill, I am asked, "How do you reconcile the concept of goodwill with the total depravity of the human heart?" Some people go so far as to say,Read More
I was honored to receive the following email from a friend of ours who is a professor at Michigan State University. Because Marilyn keeps a close pulse on how our secular culture processes information, especially as it relates to faith, I wanted to share her encouraging thoughts with you as well. EmersonRead More
Growing up, I had a little exposure to the “church.” As a young boy, for example, on Christmas I went with my mom and sister to the First Church of Religious Science in Peoria, Illinois, an organization that espouses the dogma: “We believe in the incarnation of the Spirit in all, and that we are all incarnations.” I say this because as a small boy I had no idea what I was hearing, if in fact I heard anything at all. I preferred to play games so went on my merry way, skipping about.
We don’t hear too much about submission anymore. And if we do, it’s usually a command to the wife, to submit to her husband. Still, this is considered a bit archaic in today’s modern culture.
But what does the Bible say? Before the section on marriage in Ephesians 5, we read in verse 21, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Should a husband submit to his wife? Yes. He submits to his wife’s need to feel loved. I take this position by combining God’s command in Ephesians 5:21 to mutually submit, with God’s command in Ephesians 5:25-31 to a husband to love his wife.
My daughter Joy, who is 26 years old, asked me to summarize for her what I say at the conference about Peter's reference to a wife as the "weaker vessel."
The importance of this phrase cannot be overlooked. Some in the secular feminist movement reject Orthodox Christianity because of the phrase "weaker vessel" (KJV) used by the apostle Peter in 1 Peter 3:7 about wives. The whole verse says, "You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered" (NASB). Because of the description of the wife