The Workplace

What happens when love and respect are missing from the workplace? Conflicts arise, leading to breakdowns between management and employees. When employees feel management doesn't care, they react in ways that appear disrespectful and when management feels disrespected, they react in ways that appear uncaring. The "crazy cycle" leads to a loss of trust, breakdowns in communication, and decreased productivity. Discover how to reduce craziness, improve relationships, and foster teamwork. Also, learn how to decode the pink and blue perspectives to enhance communication and performance.

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Do You Maintain a Submissive Spirit When Feeling Threatened by Authority?

John Gottman, the foremost quantitative researcher on marriage, wrote, "In the research literature on marital interaction that has used observational methods, women's marital interaction . . . has been consistently described as more confronting, demanding, coercive, and highly emotional . . . than the interaction of their husbands." Why is this? Why does she resort to this covert form of power?

Do You Maintain a Submissive Spirit When Feeling Threatened by Authority?

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The Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees, Part 2

In part 1 we discussed the dynamics found in conflicts involving a male manager with both male and female employees. The love and respect principles are equally as important to consider in work situations that involve a female manager. What about the female manager toward the female employee? The female manager can be a caring woman who appears unloving to a female employee.

The Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees, Part 2

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The Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees, Part 1

I believe men and women need love and respect as human beings in the workplace. Though there are daily demands to fulfill the mission of the organization apart from these emotional attitudes toward each other, I do not believe that a company will perform well when the men and women get on what I call the Crazy Cycle. Without love (“caring” would be a better term for the workplace) a woman reacts without respect, and without respect a man reacts without love (without caring). But added to this craziness is the tension between managers and employees. When employees feel unloved (uncared for) they react in ways that feel disrespectful to managers, and when managers feel disrespected they react in ways that feel unloving (uncaring) to employees.

The Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees, Part 1

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We Must Think Before We Speak

During the 2016 NBA Finals, a player’s wife, understandably hurting and upset for her husband who had just been ejected from a game, fired out a tweet from her seat in the arena accusing the NBA of being rigged and out to get her husband for the sake of ratings. An hour and a half later, she deleted the tweet and apologized, but the damage had already been done. With 450,000 followers on Twitter, she had already seen her unfortunate tweet retweeted thousands of times, and the backlash had begun.

We Must Think Before We Speak

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Three Questions to Filter Your Words With

A filter is any device that removes unwanted material. For example, an oil filter for a car lets the good oil pass through while blocking the crud and removing impurities. The muck and guck are detrimental to the engine and undermine the effectiveness of the motor. Some of us need a filter on our speech when we communicate. When we lack a filter we undermine our effectiveness in communicating with people, whether those are family and friends, coworkers and neighbors, or acquaintances and strangers. What is this filter? It consists of asking three questions before communicating in person, over the phone, or in writing.

Three Questions to Filter Your Words With

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How To Live With A Workaholic

Q: My husband is a workaholic.Work comes before me and the kids, and our family is suffering. How do I respect him in this area? Dr. E says: First, I cannot guarantee that what I have to say will automatically get a husband to quit working so many hours and be at home a lot more. However, in counseling many couples in this situation, I have made four observations that usually help a wife deal with the situation in a more positive way. 1. “We need your influence.”

How To Live With A Workaholic

Marriage

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My Husband is a Workaholic

Question: My husband is a workaholic. Work comes before me and the kids. Your first point in CHAIRS is to admire and respect his desire to work. If I compliment him on his work, won't I just be encouraging him to work more. Answer: First, I caution...

My Husband is a Workaholic

Marriage

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"What I Learned About Leadership From A Fight With My Wife"

My friend Michael Hyatt is one of the most profound writers on leadership that I know. His recent blog post linking leadership principles to marital conflict resolution did not disappoint.

"What I Learned About Leadership From A Fight With My Wife"

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