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Discover how this truth, "My Response is My Responsibility," is a game-changer. You can experience greater freedom, empowerment, peace, maturity, independence, respectability, and authenticity. On this Collection Page, I unpack these benefits. I can tell you upfront that this is not about shouldering all the blame or suppressing your feelings. It's about asserting your needs, creating healthy boundaries, and realizing no one can control you. The application of this phrase truly liberates. I welcome questions under Ask Emerson for this topic as well.

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Am I Responsible for My Spouse’s Reactions?

Am I Responsible for My Spouse’s Reactions?

Have you ever experienced a conflict with your spouse like this one I described in my book Love & Respect? The husband is gone for a week on a business trip. As his plane lands, he starts envisioning a romantic evening with his wife, so he hurries home as quickly as he can.

Am I Responsible for My Spouse’s Reactions?
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My Response is My Responsibility -- Part 3

My Response is My Responsibility -- Part 3

Oftentimes, when people hear me teach this idea that “My response is my responsibility,” they have a light bulb moment. This truth that “My response is my responsibility” has revolutionized their lives. Let’s consider what several have said…

My Response is My Responsibility -- Part 3
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My Response is My Responsibility -- Part 2

My Response is My Responsibility -- Part 2

The Sin in All of Us. All of us have within us a flawed character. Jesus called it sin. In fact, Jesus said in Mark 7:21-23, "For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries, deeds of coveting and wickedness, as well as deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride and foolishness. All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man."

My Response is My Responsibility -- Part 2
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My Response is My Responsibility - Part 1

My Response is My Responsibility - Part 1

There is a story that has been told of a Christian Frenchman during World War II who had been harboring Jews before the Nazis eventually captured him. German soldiers brought him before an S.S. officer known as “The Torturer.” At that moment, the peace of Christ came upon this Frenchman who manifested on his face the serenity of the Lord. However, the S.S. officer interpreted that tranquility as a snide look and screamed, “Get that smirk off your face. Don’t you know who I am?” The Frenchman said, “Yes sir, I know who you are. You are known as ‘The Torturer.’ I know you have the power to torture me. You have the power to kill me. But sir, you do not have the power to get me to hate you."

My Response is My Responsibility - Part 1
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Who Is To Blame? Understanding Motivation in Your Marriage

Who Is To Blame? Understanding Motivation in Your Marriage

A wife declares, "My husband causes my disrespect. I would not be so disrespectful if he were more respectable." A husband contends, “My wife causes my unloving reactions. I would not be so unloving if she were more lovable.” At a certain point, Sarah and I learned that we do not cause each others’ hostility and contempt if and when it is shown. Instead we know and teach “my response is my responsibility."

Who Is To Blame? Understanding Motivation in Your Marriage
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My Response is My Responsibility

My Response is My Responsibility

Do you feel stuck in a marriage that seems hopeless? You read testimonies of those who are finding real freedom in their marriage and you long for that. Yet, your partner doesn’t seem to be on board. What then? How does Love and Respect apply?

My Response is My Responsibility
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When Each Stops Blaming, Look Out!

When Each Stops Blaming, Look Out!

Have you ever played the blame game? If you are in a relationship, no doubt you have! Blaming others rather than looking at our own inadequacies is a natural part of our human nature. But I’ve noticed something powerful when working with couples: positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame-game! As a couple, if you both confess your own issues, as uncomfortable as that is for all of us, you can move forward in remarkable ways.

When Each Stops Blaming, Look Out!
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Selling Brass Knuckles To Mother Teresa

Selling Brass Knuckles To Mother Teresa

I love how people apply the Love and Respect message. There is something about this message -- or subpoints of this message -- that bring about life change in people. Sarah and I continue to be overjoyed and grateful to God.A husband writes, "My church held a conference here in Vancouver BC Canada with your DVDs. Just before that I was having a hard time in my relationship with my wife. Your views on relationships and what God expects of us through Ephesians was astounding.

Selling Brass Knuckles To Mother Teresa
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My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II

My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week for part 2 of My Response Is My Responsibility. In discussing this challenging but freeing topic they will look at the fact that no one can make a person disobey God, owning one’s responses, letting others off the hook and confronting others.

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My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II
My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I

My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I

We possess a God given right to rule our own inner responses. No one can make us hate them. No one can force us to have contempt for them. That’s a choice we make. Others cannot make that decision for us. What brings a person to this place of freedom? How does a person discover their right to rule their inner response? It begins with subscribing to this axiom: My Response is My Responsibility. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

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My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I
Do You BOTH Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?

Do You BOTH Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?

This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss how good things happen to a couple when both contend they are the one responsible for the lack of love and respect in the marriage. For instance when both say, "My response is my responsibility and I could have been more loving and respectful even when you were having a bad day,” the nature of the marriage changes for the better—much better.

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Do You BOTH Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?
Who Do You Feel Is Responsible For the Success of Your Marriage?

Who Do You Feel Is Responsible For the Success of Your Marriage?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss responsibility inside of marriage, including the notion that some of us hold others responsible for our happiness and ultimately the success or failure of our marriage.

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Who Do You Feel Is Responsible For the Success of Your Marriage?

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